I know that as we fast approach Christmas Day we all have a gazillion things to do. Shopping to be finished, planning time with family and friends, getting out Christmas cards, getting the house ready for the holidays and so on and so forth. So to add one more thing to make you think about, may be over the top right now, but I’ll give it a go none the less.
Take just a few minutes and sit quietly and dare to reminisce about one really happy memory from years gone by. Even if it’s just a snippit … a day spent with family, going out for a meal with someone special, happy moments spent with the kids on Christmas morning or a wonderful family event where everyone was together. Doesn’t it just bring smiles and a warm feeling inside?
There may be a twinge of sadness if memories involve a loved one who has passed or is no longer in our lives, but with even that we have to recognize the joy of those special moments. Sharing beautiful moments is a gift we give to one another, one that can never be taken away.
Dare to feel the happiness, smile inside and out with the thought of special times and most of all…appreciate every moment we will be spending this year with those we love or even in the observing of others enjoying themselves. It is a time of love, hold onto that moment in your heart!
Home for the Holidays…
Just hearing these words can conjure up the most pleasant array of images….sights, sounds and even aromas. Most of us can instantly picture the warmest memories of holidays gone by. In a matter of seconds we seem to be transported back to a different time and place, familiar yet so far back in our recollection, that there are only flashes of the scenes that have now settled into the coziest corners of our minds. When we pause to entertain these fond memories, the feeling of warmth radiates through us. Someone looking in our direction may even notice that a smile has gently taken over our expression.Wouldn’t it be great to get caught in this place, even for just a little while. Long enough to relive the feelings that we remember so fondly of that timeless love, joy and happiness.
I catch myself musing in that place. At first, enjoying the journey revisited and then inevitably slide back to the here and now. I push away the feeling of disappointment as I become aware of reality again. I realize that as much as I would like them to be, those moments are gone and will never be the same.
For many of us, what we picture as that warm holiday feeling has changed dramatically. Perhaps we have lost a loved one, or had dramatic changes in our life circumstances, such as divorce or separation from those that we love. Naturally, some of us now redefine our lives by these losses and find it hard to look past them to the new memories that could possibly be made in the here and now.
The human spirit at it’s best, continues to try and find hope and love wherever it can. So many of us share one form of sadness or another at this time of year. Fortunately, many people are gradually able to look outside themselves and their grief and share part of their broken hearts with others.
Coming Home For The Holidays for some becomes the not so easy, yet doable work of meshing cherished sights and sounds with the new. Look around…there are bound to be a few friends or family members who are dealing with sadness and loss during this season that is not as joyful as it looks. They could certainly use a few encouraging words and maybe even a hug.
How do you blend love and loss and hope during this holiday season ?
Hope springs eternal; love lives forever!